纸上婚变

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Novelist and wife - by CJ

Novelist and wife - by CJ

法国小说家吕西安.里歇著书立说常常妙笔生花、浪漫情事多多,但他的家庭生活太平静、太单调了。

吕西安.里歇每天到图书馆去写作,他太太每天操持家务,并负责打印丈夫定期在《里昂晚报》上发表的短篇小说。

他每天回家的第一件事几乎是一成不变的:拥抱一下妻子,亲亲她的前额,说天天重复的一句话,“亲爱的,我希望我不在家时,你没有过于烦闷,是吗?”

太太的回答差不多也是一成不变:“没有,家里也是有这么多事情要做。但看到你回来,我还是很高兴的。”

结婚23年来,几乎天天如此!

但是万万没有想到的是,奥尔嘉.巴列丝卡以第三者的身份闯进了他们的家庭。这是一个刚离了婚的漂亮、奔放,甚至有点寡廉鲜耻的女人。她降服了小说家,并且提出要跟他结婚。

小说家毕竟是小说家,他想出个妙主意。他编了一个故事,把自己与太太的现实处境转托成两个虚构人物的经历。为了能被妻子领悟,他还特意引用了他们夫妻间以往 生活中若干特有的细节。在故事的结尾,他让那对夫妻离了婚,并特意写道:那个妻子对丈夫已经没有了爱情,一滴眼泪也没有流地走了,以后隐居在南方的森林小 屋,靠丈夫补偿给她的足够的法郎,悠闲自得地消磨着自由的时光……

他把这份手稿交给太太打印时,心里难免有些不安。晚上回到家里时,心里嘀咕妻子会怎么接待他。

“亲爱的,我希望我不在家时你没有过于烦闷,是吗?”吕西安.里歇的话里带着几分犹豫。

太太却像平常一样安详:“没有,家里有这么多事情要做呐。但看到你回来,我还是很高兴的。”

吕西安.里歇猜测,难道她没有看懂?或者她把打印的事情安排到了明天?然而,太太告诉他,故事已经打印好了,并经仔细校对后寄往《里昂晚报》编辑部了。可是她为什么一字不提文中的情节呢?毕竟心虚,小说家没有多问;他受着情感的煎熬。

直到故事在报上发表后,闷葫芦才打开。原来,太太把故事的结局改了:既然丈夫提出了这个要求,妻子只得强忍心中的悲伤,夫妻俩离了婚。可是,那位在结婚23年之后依然保持着自己纯真爱情的妻子,却在前往南方森林小屋的途中抑郁而死。

小说家吕西安.里歇震惊了,忏悔了,当下就和那个令他神魂颠倒的女人一刀两断。

太阳又升起来了,他们的生活还在继续。如同太太没有向他说起自己修改故事的结局一样,吕西安.里歇也没有向太太谈到自己的这段情事。

“亲爱的,我希望我不在家时你没有过于烦闷,是吗?”吕西安.里歇回到家时,一如既往地问道,不过比以往更加深情。

“没有,家里有这么多事情要做。但看到你回来,我还是很高兴的。”妻子一如既往地回答,不过比以往更加温柔。

那些似乎太平静、太单调、太不浪漫的家庭生活,往往正是最安宁、最朴实、最值得珍惜的幸福生活。

[source: http://hi.baidu.com/%B3%C2%F6%A8%CD%AE%C9%CF%D0%A3/blog/item/d1ee0e45da56d734869473b2.html]
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State of higher awareness

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Jiddu Krishnamurti (photo from http://www.buddhasangha.com/)

Jiddu Krishnamurti (photo from http://www.buddhasangha.com/)

This short excerpt is from Krishnamurthi’s response in one of his many talks he participated in during his life time (1895 – 1986) where he is explaining the state of higher awareness and his rational for trying to achieve it:

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Mind cannot think completely, fully, if it is tethered to a belief.  It is like an animal that is tied to a post by a string.  It does not matter if that string be long or short; it is tied, so that it cannot wander fully, freely, extensively, completely; it can only wander within the length of the string.  Surely such wandering is not thinking; it is only moving within a limited circle of a belief.  Now, men’s minds are tethered to a belief, and therefore they are incapable of thinking.  Most minds have identified themselves to a belief, and therefore their thought is always circumscribed, limited by that belief or ideal; hence the incompleteness of thought.  Beliefs separate people.  So, if you see that, if you really recognize with your whole being that belief is conditioning thought, then what happens?  You become aware that your thought is conditioned, aware that your thought is caught up, tethered to a belief.  In the flame of awareness, you will recognize the foolishness, and therefore you are beginning to free the mind from the conditioning, and hence you begin to think completely, fully.

Please experiment with this, and you will see that life is not a process of continual battle, battle against standards as opposed to what you want to do.  There is then, neither what you want to do, nor the standard, but right action, without personal identification.

Take another example.  You are afraid of what your neighbor might say – a very simple fear.  Now, it is not good developing the opposite, which is to say, “I don’t care what the neighbor says, “ and do something in reaction to that opposition.  But if you really become aware of why you are afraid of your neighbor, then fear ceases altogether.  To discover that “why”, the cause of it, you have to be fully aware in that moment of fear, and then you will see what it is; you are afraid of losing a job, you want to fit into society, and all the rest of it.  So, you begin to discover through this process of alertness of mind, this continual awareness; and in that flame the dross of the false standards is burnt away.  Then life is not a battle.  Then there is nothing to be conquered.

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Where the mind is enslaved, conditioned, there must be conflict, there must be suffering, because, after all thought is like waters of a river.  It must be in continual movement.  Eternity is that movement.  If you condition that free flowing movement of thought, of mind and heart, then you must have conflict and then that conflict must have a remedy and then the process begins; the searching for remedies, the substitutes, and never trying to find out the cause of this conflict.  So, through the process of full awareness, you liberate the mind and heart from the hindrances which have been set about them through the environment; and as long as environment is conditioning the mind, as long as the mind has not discovered the true significance of the environment, there must be conflict…

[source: http://lazydabbler.wordpress.com/2009/10/]

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Portrait photography – meeting Pansy

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Pansy, the model who gave her time to us for portraiture photography

Pansy, the model who gave her time to us for portraiture photography

After the Starbizz’s Shooting Date event at Dataran Pahlawan last Sunday, Kenn-Wai, Angel and I went for a coffee at the Old Town Cafe. We shared the shots we took for the event with each other, and taking advices from others to improve our shots.

Kenn-Wai, who does a lot of portrait photography, shared his valuable portraiture photography experience with us. We were so motivated and wanted to put this into practical. While brainstorming for a subject to shoot, Angel’s friend, Pansy came and joined us for the coffee session. Straight away we invited her to be our model.

We then moved to an open area of Dataran Pahlawan, and the four of us had a short discussion of our camera, the area and atmosphere, light sources, and the posture of model. It’s essential to study this before shooting. Although this was not a planned photography session but it was so fun to learn and to spend time with friends.

We had to thank Pansy for sparing her time with us, and of course being patient with us. Special thanks to Kenn-Wai and Angel for their company and sharing their experience which benefits me so much. May everyone be happy. Sharing some shots after the jump:

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天下故事: 尼国‧捡拾弃米求暖肚

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尼国‧捡拾弃米求暖肚

(尼日利亚)在尼日利亚北部卡齐纳州(Katsina)的一个著名穀物市集,工人正忙著搬运一袋袋用麻包袋包装的玉米粒,哈莉拉阿朵(Harira Ado)一手抱著18个月大的女儿,一路捡拾散落在地上的穀类来养活家人。

由於工人在搬运一袋袋的穀物时,难免会有掉落下来的穀粒,这时阿朵就会弯下腰来捡拾地上的穀粒。

现年43岁但看来有些虚弱的阿朵并非唯一在卡齐纳州著名的国际市集内捡拾穀物的人。

与其他200名妇女一样,这名拥有7名孩子的母亲从邻国尼日尔(Niger)移居过来。尼日尔最近几个星期的雨势不稳定,导致农作物歉收并引发严重粮荒。

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Japan’s Shark Fin Capital, Kesen-numa City

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Japan's Shark Fin Capital, Kesen-numa City. This is the picture that sparked a global outcry. (by Alex Hofford)

Japan's Shark Fin Capital, Kesen-numa City. This is the picture that sparked a global outcry. (by Alex Hofford)

KESEN-NUMA CITY, JAPAN – It’s 5am on the the north eastern tip of Japan’s main island of Honshu, and 75 tons of dead shark is being meticulously arranged into a neat grid of tidy piles, of twenty sharks per pile.

If you thought shark finning was exclusively a Chinese problem, think again. Welcome to Kesen-numa City, Japan’s shark fin capital.

Here, six days a week, small teams of Japanese workers go about the hushed business of industrial shark-finning.

By 6.30am, with piles arranged, the sharks are disemboweled first. Hearts are ripped efficiently from bodies by men wearing brightly coloured rubber boots and aprons. At 7am, shark corpses are cleaned of their blood by workers wielding water hoses. And by 8am, small teams are silently moving up and down aisles and rows like robots in a Japanese car factory, quickly slicing off every dorsal, pectoral and tail fin from the lifeless, grey lumps. Big hungry black crows squawk in the shadows, looking for bloody morsels. And shark fins plop with regularity into small yellow plastic baskets. The baskets fill up fast, are then weighed, and finally carried to a nearby truck, where a man with a notepad strikes a deal. At 9.30am, it’s all over for another day. Fork lift trucks scoop up tons of limbless carcasses, then dump them into a high-sided truck. The process is a brutal sight to behold, and not for the faint-hearted.

Cutting the fins (Alex Hofford)

Cutting the fins (Alex Hofford)

The fishing port of Kesen-numa City is located in Miyagi Prefecture in North East Japan, and is the country’s only port dedicated to catching sharks.

Over two days in early July this year, I saw 119 tons of blue shark (Prionace glaucaof), ten tons of salmon shark (Lamna ditropis), and three tons of short fin mako shark (Isurus oxyrinchus)  landed on the dock at Kesen-numa. Not to mention several tons of endangered bluefin tuna, (Thunnus thynnus), but that’s a whole other story. Taking government transparency to another level, landed shark tonnage numbers are provided daily by the port of Kesen-numa’s Japanese only website, which is publicly, (and apparently unashamedly), available.

About half of the shark fin that is processed in Kesen-numa City is destined for China, mainly Hong Kong and Shanghai. For wealthy Chinese, shark fin from Kesen-numa is seen as a premium, or luxury, brand. Mr Hatakeyama, 45, a shark fin processor from Kesen-numa, said, “Quite a bit of shark fin is sent to Shanghai from here as there are many rich people there. Our shark fin here can command higher prices than Chinese shark fin sourced from elsewhere in Asia, the Middle East or Africa. Even though the Chinese have their own shark fin, they prefer Japanese brands”.

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