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Mar 14

永远记住你的话

By Compassion
untitled (by Tracy Martin)

untitled (by Tracy Martin)

我读过许多文章，多数是写妈妈，很少写爸爸。

我爸住在山村，靠双手割胶，养活我们9个兄弟姐妹，爸妈辛苦一世人，穷了一辈子。

记得我在就9岁那年，生了一场病，看医生要到四五公里的市镇，所以就没有前往。三更半夜时候，身体突然发冷，冷得牙齿颤抖，爸给我喝了一杯热水，紧紧抱住我，让他的体热温暖著我，可是，我仍然不舒服，放声痛哭，爸一双手轻轻拍著我。现在想起来，当时爸一定很伤心、焦虑，泪水一定落了下来。后来怎样好起来，已经记不起，我能活到今天，算是菩萨保佑了。

在我年轻的时候，心头有一股翻身改政的理想。

不想却在1969年，三更半夜就被人带走，离开了爸妈，兄弟姐妹，放逐到石象城的高墻內。一夜之间，爸就失去一个儿子，可以想象，爸会有多伤心，多痛苦呢！这种痛苦，只有做爸爸才会感受到。现在我当上爸爸，才体会到，爸爸对孩子的爱，是无条件，是永永远远的……爸七十多岁时，我的孩子还小，身边只有一辆70CC的电单车，每天忙著生活打拼，从不会想载爸到较远的地方走走看看，但爸没有半句怨言，守著家，看顾孙子。我知道爸有一个心愿，一直想回去中国乡下探亲，看看他哥哥的孩子们，可是，我的经济无法让他成行，就连吉隆坡和新加坡都没有到过。84岁那年，他很平静的闭上眼睛离开人间，不知爸心中有带著掛碍，遗憾吗？希望他不会，但我却有著对他深深的遗憾，层层的內疚。

当生活上遇到不如意事，我耳畔就会响起爸的那一句：“一个人穷没有关系，最重要誌不能穷”。

当我的经济面对困难时，就会记起爸说的话：“一个人千万不能去偷、抢、骗”。当我在欢乐时，心头就想起爸一句：“人千万不要学会吹（吸鸦片）、喝、嫖、赌”。

爸往生时，甚么也没有留下，只留下了一个叫他早起早睡的闹钟，还有一支红烟斗，清清白白一生人。

送著爸走最后一程时，我双手扶棺木，心痛得发不出声音，眼泪掉不出来……老爸，在人生的路上，我永远记住你的话……

[文：章钦，刊登于星洲日报副刊]
Jun 14

May.June 2011

By Life Journal, Photography
"i'm waiting for dad"

"i'm waiting for dad"

It has come to JunEE. Another busy period where time is so retrained to update the website.

First we would like to express our deepest condolence to the loss of a great father, Mr Chan in the month of Fathers Day. Dear Jamie and Janic, it’s with profound sadness to hear that your father passed away. May your memories be your comfort.

When Murphy and I attended the wake of deceased Mr Chan, we had a good chat together with Jamie and Janic’s husband, Zhi-Wei. Of course the three of them have their own family now with children. So our conversation was mainly about family relationships.

They shared their experiences of being a husband and a father, on how to bring comfort to the ones they love. We  also discussed on family issues in society such as the effect on moral development of children with single-parent family.

I really appreciate that they shared the challenges at times and satisfaction of being a father, and ways to build and maintain good relationship with their spouse. They showed the key of happinEEss: truth, honesty, understanding, and devotion.

Thanks to the three fathers for sharing their valuable experiences. June, happy Fathers Day!

May all beings be happy. Sharing some shots taken in Melaka:

man of the house

man of the house

ritual

ritual

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*

no trespassing

no trespassing

masked

masked

vocal

vocal

flying safe

flying safe

love (Cindy and Bear)

love (Cindy and Bear)

"i'll grow up"

"i'll grow up"

May 13

Make time for parents to avoid empty nest syndrome

By Compassion
empty nest syndrome (cartoon by John McPherson)

empty nest syndrome (cartoon by John McPherson)

KUALA LUMPUR: Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil today urged children to make more time for their parents to avoid them from suffering the Empty Nest syndrome.

The Women, Family and Community Development Minister said children should stop giving parents excuses such as a busy schedule as it may cause them sadness, a sense of loss and loneliness.

She said mothers and fathers may grapple with the syndrome following sadness and depression after their children leave home to start a new life in studies, work or marriage.

According to Shahrizat, a study by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) found that 41 per cent of parents aged above 60 suffered from loneliness.

Speaking to reporters after launching the “Kasihnya Ibu” exhibition in conjunction with the national-level Mother’s Day celebrations at the National Art Gallery, near here, she said the percentage is expected to rise should nothing be done to rectify the situation.

“Don’t use busy schedules as a reason, it is a child’s responsibility to care for and protect their aged parents,” she said.

In line with the Mother’s Day theme of “Sentiasa Ada” (Always There), she said although technology helps to keep family members connected it cannot replace a person”s actual presence.

Also present at the exhibition was the Prime Minister’s mother, Tun Rahah Mohd Noah, Deputy Women, Family and Community Development Minister Senator Heng Seai Kie and National Art Gallery director-general, Datuk Mohd Yusof Ahmad.

In conjunction with Mother’s Day, the ministry is also providing free health screenings to mothers at 56 LPPKN Nursejahtera clinics until May 15.

[source: http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/Maketimeforparentstoavoidemptynestsyndrome_saysShahrizat/Article/#ixzz1M1ekqreY]
Sep 25

Trips to visit little Chern of the Ling’s family

By Life Journal, Photography
the Ling's family: Cynthia, little Chern, and Mark

the Ling's family: Cynthia, little Chern, and Mark

Congratulation to the proud parents, Mark and Cynthia for their newborn baby, Khim-Chern. Hope the both of you be loving parents. Do your best. Enjoy your baby!

Last week was the full month of little Chern from the Ling’s family. They celebrated by throwing a party at the house of Cynthia’s parents in Lubok Cina. It took us 45 minutes drive from Melaka to the place.

Before this party, we paid a visit to the Ling’s family a week before the party. Kok-Liang, Tracy, Wee-Peng, Meng-Hong, Patrick and I departed after our breakfast and travelled to Lubok Cina. Ever since Cynthia delivered the baby, we didn’t have the chance to visit the family. So it was thrilling of this trip.

When we arrived, Mark the new father was happily welcomed us and showed us around the house before bringing us to little Chern. Cynthia, the new mother was in the house, looking healthy and cheerful, expecting for our arrival. We just could not wait to step into the house and look at the baby. Little Chern was so tiny and cute. He was sleeping in the baby hammock. We didn’t want to interrupt his slumber so we had a chat with the parents for their new experience.

the fingers of father and son

the fingers of father and son

Shortly during our chat, the baby woke up and cried. He was hungry. The moment came when the new father had to carry his responsibility to milk the baby. So Mark held little Chern in his arms just like what a mother would do and slowly placed teat into the baby’s mouth. The atmosphere was warm and quiet; everyone was watching at the father and son.

Mark feeding little Chern in his arms

Mark feeding little Chern in his arms

Mark patiently feeding little Chern while the baby enjoyed the meal. After 20 minutes finished the milking, Mark held little Chern up on his tight, repeated gently patting on the baby’s back to bring him to burp. This would help little Chern to get rid of some of the air that he tends to swallow during feeding because not being burped frequently and too much swallowed air can lead to spitting up and gassiness.

Feeding a baby is an exciting experience for any new parent and Mark seemed to enjoy it. The process happened again during our second visit for the full month party. Mark became very experience after a month of practice.

During the second visit, many of us got to hold the baby the arms. After feeding, Cindy, Tracy, Lawrence and Cinda were so keen to hold little Chern and did that one after another’s turn. Some of them held baby for the first time, feeling excited yet anxious. Then the couples started to talk and play with the baby. Maybe, it is soon for us to see a new family of our friends.

Short after little Chern back to slumber land after milking, both visits ended in warm embraces and promises to visit again. It was a wonderful trip to Lubok Cina to see the Ling’s family and exciting experience to observe the parents taking care of little Chern.

Thanks for everyone for going on these trips together and spent a precious time together. We would like to congratulate and thank the Ling’s family for having a healthy and cute baby, inviting us to their house and sharing the experience with us. To Mark and Cynthia, may little Chern fill your life with sparkles and twinkles.

 May all beings be happy. Share some shots taken after the jump:

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