妈妈老了

By Compassion, Photography
曾经的

曾经的

妈妈老了,这是早就知道的事实。已是第三次做寿了,能不老吗?但原来这只是头脑知道,心里压根儿没认同过,一直到最近回家才不得不承认。妈妈炒的菜怎么再也不清脆可口了,分不出是菜汤还是炒菜。妈妈的厨艺一直来都是家人的最爱,虽然偶尔失手过,但还没吃厌过。以前学炒菜时,妈妈说最重要的是掌握火候,还有千万不要加水,加入少许蒜头即可炒出一道清脆可口的菜肴。可是如今,我看到的是妈妈放入青菜后,隨即是加入一碗水,不像是炒菜,倒像是在燜菜。吃在口里,食不知味,QQ的口感没了,熟悉的味道全没了。看在眼里,痛在心里,心里完全知道这是怎么一回事,因为妈妈再也无法咀嚼清脆的青菜了。

想一辈子当母亲眼中的小孩

妈妈一生辛劳,养育九个子女,即使是挺个大肚子,依然砍柴挑水干粗活。实在不愿相信那个曾经走在你身旁为你挡风遮雨的背影有天在你不警觉时竟会落在你身后,而你必须在人群中搜寻她的踪影。

不愿接受那个曾经紧握你小手越过马路的双手有天需要你扶一把,等她一会儿,耐心地牵她过马路。

不愿接受前一刻明明彼此才互相起劲谈话,才一会儿,她竟然坐著呼呼地睡著了。做子女的不愿接受母亲会老的事实,想一辈子做母亲眼中的小孩,当永远的孩子,享受母亲的呵护。忘了自己已经身为人母,依然沉醉在记忆中儿时的妈妈,那个不知何为疲惫,时刻精力充沛,终日为家人奔波的身影。硬朗敏捷的身子再也无法抵挡岁月的侵蚀,真是岁月催人老啊!

身为最小且最迟出嫁的女儿,今年终於有机会第一次替妈妈拜寿,心里祈祷这不是唯一的一次。我对妈妈说,希望你健健康康,长命百岁,因为我希望往后还能为你拜寿。妈妈感慨地说不知是否还能等到另一个十年,同辈的只剩下两三个了。对一个年长者,能健康的再活十年確实是个奢侈的梦想,这何尝不也是子女的一个奢望呢?

回娘家,回娘家,实在不敢想像没有娘在的娘家,回去时会是甚么苦涩滋味?出嫁的女儿可以回娘家实在是一种幸福。有天这种幸福感只能在记忆中去追溯了。

[文:丽华,刊登于星洲日报副刊]
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A blessing in disguise

By Compassion, Photography
in a little world of strangers (taken in Voyage Travellers Lounge, Melaka)

in a little world of strangers (taken in Voyage Travellers Lounge, Melaka)

When I began planning to move to Auckland to study, my mother was a little worried about the uncertainty of living in a place that was so different from India, where we lived. She worried particularly about a lack of jobs, cultural differences and racism.

Despite these concerns, I came to New Zealand in July 2009. I have found the place and people to be very gracious and supportive. Soon after I arrived, I realised the importance of getting a job to supplement my living allowance.

Determined to do this on my own, I spent a whole day going door-to-door asking for a job, but found little or no response. This became my daily routine after college for a few weeks.

One afternoon, I walked into a building to ask if there were any job opportunities. The people there were all stunned, and advised me not to continue my job search in that manner. As I was about to leave, a client in the building, who had been listening to what the others had said, approached me and asked if I would wait outside. Fifteen minutes later, he returned. He asked me what my plans were and encouraged me to stay positive. He then offered to take me to the Royal Oak area to search for a job.

I was a little baffled, but had a good feeling about him and so I went along. Along the way, I realised that I had run out of résumés. The man stopped at his business partner’s office to make me 15 extra copies. He also gave me self-presentation tips on dressing and speaking, and added that I should give him a call if I ever needed anything. I handed out my résumés and went home feeling very satisfied. The following day, I received a call from a store in Royal Oak offering me a job.

It seems that the world always gives back to you when you need it. And this time, it was a complete stranger who turned out to be a real blessing.

[source: http://www.rdasia.com/a-blessing-in-disguise]
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April.May 2011

By Life Journal, Photography
old friendly cooper at Jalan Hang Kasturi, Melaka

old friendly cooper at Jalan Hang Kasturi, Melaka

Hello May! These two months are the period filled with lovEE. May, the month of a new beginning.

Firstly, congratulation to our friends Tong Poh-Ling and Goh Seng-Chin who finally finally tied the knot after so many years. Thanks for letting us to share and freeze the special moments of your beautiful day of wedding. There is nothing more beautiful in life than the union of two who love for one another has grown through the years, from the small acorn of passion, into a great rooted tree.

We would  like to congratulate our old friend Yong-Chia and your lovely wife, Hong Shuat-Teng who just celebrated the full month of your baby, Ethan yesterday. We share in the happiness of the beautiful new life you have created, and our love is with your new family.

May is also a special month for mother. Last Sunday, most of us celebrated Mother’s Day.

As American author, Washington Irving described

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.

Thank you for always being there, mom. Happy Mother’s Day. Hope your day is sunshine and flowers with happy thoughts to fill the house.

I’m glad that my camera is back from service. Sharing some shots taken in April and May, which some captured with my sister Panasonic camera.

May all beings bEE happy.

"oh, it's me"

"oh, it's me"

Audrey Hepburn

Audrey Hepburn

balloons (Tong Poh-Ling & Goh Seng-Chin's wedding dinner)

balloons (Tong Poh-Ling & Goh Seng-Chin's wedding dinner)

time to go home (Phnom Penh International Airport)

time to go home (Phnom Penh International Airport)

swim across

swim across

fine weather

fine weather

peacock

peacock

aftermath of fire

aftermath of fire

house in kampung

house in kampung

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Make time for parents to avoid empty nest syndrome

By Compassion
empty nest syndrome (cartoon by John McPherson)

empty nest syndrome (cartoon by John McPherson)

KUALA LUMPUR: Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil today urged children to make more time for their parents to avoid them from suffering the Empty Nest syndrome.

The Women, Family and Community Development Minister said children should stop giving parents excuses such as a busy schedule as it may cause them sadness, a sense of loss and loneliness.

She said mothers and fathers may grapple with the syndrome following sadness and depression after their children leave home to start a new life in studies, work or marriage.

According to Shahrizat, a study by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) found that 41 per cent of parents aged above 60 suffered from loneliness.

Speaking to reporters after launching the “Kasihnya Ibu” exhibition in conjunction with the national-level Mother’s Day celebrations at the National Art Gallery, near here, she said the percentage is expected to rise should nothing be done to rectify the situation.

“Don’t use busy schedules as a reason, it is a child’s responsibility to care for and protect their aged parents,” she said.

In line with the Mother’s Day theme of “Sentiasa Ada” (Always There), she said although technology helps to keep family members connected it cannot replace a person”s actual presence.

Also present at the exhibition was the Prime Minister’s mother, Tun Rahah Mohd Noah, Deputy Women, Family and Community Development Minister Senator Heng Seai Kie and National Art Gallery director-general, Datuk Mohd Yusof Ahmad.

In conjunction with Mother’s Day, the ministry is also providing free health screenings to mothers at 56 LPPKN Nursejahtera clinics until May 15.

[source: http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/Maketimeforparentstoavoidemptynestsyndrome_saysShahrizat/Article/#ixzz1M1ekqreY]
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不一样的鸡场街

By Beautiful Melaka, Photography
鸡场街的倒影

鸡场街的倒影

上个星期难得有空,便和Dylan到闻名的鸡场街(也叫文化街)街拍。我们已经在鸡场街街拍摄了几次,而这次又到鸡场街是给自己的挑战。一直寻找着完美,几乎忘了那不完美的存在、那不一样的感觉。

常常欣赏网上和朋友们的鸡场街照片,觉得都是很复古,很优美的马六甲老街。我和朋友们一起也拍摄过的几条街,豆腐街、打铁街、青云亭街、马车街、海山街等等,也一样追求完美的照片:大热天的蓝天白云、复古混合殖民式的建筑物、还有那满街好奇的游客。

这次和Dylan出来街拍,我们希望能随性而不追求这完美的照片。不必在乎角度、曝光,只要感觉对了就按下快门。

拿了妹妹的Panasonic傻瓜相机,我们便出发了!轻轻松松的走向那鸡场街,寻找不起眼的事物、不一样的感觉:

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